Comments on: The Part of Parenthood No one Discusses http://blindianlove.com/2009/10/06/the-part-of-parenthood-no-one-discusses/ A Peek inside the marriage of an African American woman and her East Indian spouse Mon, 21 May 2012 07:48:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Mona http://blindianlove.com/2009/10/06/the-part-of-parenthood-no-one-discusses/#comment-438 Fri, 27 Nov 2009 05:12:28 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=243#comment-438 Hi, sorry for the delay in reply. I hadn’t checked in for a while. I have a little girl; she’s fine, but always sick sinced starting preschool. We live in TX now. We dated for over 4 yrs before marriage & have been married 12 yrs. My parents didn’t know we were dating for most of the time. Once they knew we were dating, they gave me a very hard time, but I had just finished college and no longer financially dependent. I just stood my ground, we had a long distance relationship for awhile, then got married. Once we were already married, they chose to accept, although my mom was angry at first. I think much of that anger is that my mom was previously used to getting her way, & she didn’t like that I didn’t tell her about us dating for a long time. But within a couple of yrs, things settled down quite a bit. At this point, things are quite comfortable between them and us. They adore my daughter more than anything, and they respect my husband. Things aren’t perfect. But I think most of the time someone gets annoyed at someone else in our family, it almost never has to do w/ serious cultural differences, but more w/ habits or personalities. Most of my extended family is in India, so I don’t worry too much about their opinions on this, but they’ve always been courteous to my husband on the phone and on the occasion he visited. I have no idea if they comment on us behind my back, but I don’t worry too much about it. I say, “Nobody else pays my bills” (except maybe my husband), so they don’t have a right to comment. I hope the family that you’re closest to is accepting towards him, and I hope you’re able to not be too upset by people you are not as close to who don’t accept him. Hope your thanksgiving was blessed!

]]> By: blindianlove http://blindianlove.com/2009/10/06/the-part-of-parenthood-no-one-discusses/#comment-374 Tue, 03 Nov 2009 01:33:56 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=243#comment-374 HI Mona,
Thanks for the post. I would love to hear the flip part of the coin in relationships like ours. How did your family react to you all becoming involved with one another? What part of the country are you all in now?

I hope your son is feeling better!

]]> By: Mona http://blindianlove.com/2009/10/06/the-part-of-parenthood-no-one-discusses/#comment-338 Wed, 14 Oct 2009 20:00:55 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=243#comment-338 Hi, recently discovered your site. Love the name, “Blindian,” b/c it’s a word I started using on my own some time ago (even though my husband doesn’t like it, for some reason). Now I see that others are using it too.
I’m East Indian (born in Mumbai, raised in the US), & my husband’s Afro-Caribbean. Sorry to hear your kids have been sick; unfortunately it’s the season. My 2 yo is in the midst of a similar episode.
I like reading about some of the cross-cultural experiences you go through, although they’re a bit different from mine, given my husband’s Caribbean backgrnd. Also, like seeing pics. Take care.

]]> By: blindianlove http://blindianlove.com/2009/10/06/the-part-of-parenthood-no-one-discusses/#comment-335 Sun, 11 Oct 2009 20:33:29 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=243#comment-335 Thanks Shelley and Stacy. They are both doing much better. I’m thankful for that. The kids take the daily gummy vitamins. For the most part they stay pretty healthy. Unfortunately, there was apparently a crud going around the school that was wiping out whole classes according to the pediatrician. I’m glad things are relatively back to normal.

]]> By: Stacey http://blindianlove.com/2009/10/06/the-part-of-parenthood-no-one-discusses/#comment-334 Sun, 11 Oct 2009 20:03:44 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=243#comment-334 Awwww. Hopefully by now they are feeling much better. I hate getting sick and thank God I hardly ever come down with a cold or influenza. One thing I do that I’m sure has been helping me, I take a vitamin C pill every morning along with calcium (don’t like multi vitamins) because I don’t intake the proper amount of nutrients.

]]> By: Shelley http://blindianlove.com/2009/10/06/the-part-of-parenthood-no-one-discusses/#comment-330 Wed, 07 Oct 2009 18:55:05 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=243#comment-330 Oooooh, I hope they both feel better…..Shelley :)

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