Comments on: Communication in the Key of C http://blindianlove.com/2009/12/01/communication-in-the-key-of-c/ A Peek inside the marriage of an African American woman and her East Indian spouse Mon, 21 May 2012 07:48:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Alisa http://blindianlove.com/2009/12/01/communication-in-the-key-of-c/#comment-1819 Wed, 12 Oct 2011 04:15:32 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=263#comment-1819 I hear this alot about Indian men not being so forth coming with details. While this is a generalization, in my experience I have found the same traits in M on ocassion. I think you’re doing the right thing… listening and asking lots of questions. Good luck!

]]> By: Joanyett http://blindianlove.com/2009/12/01/communication-in-the-key-of-c/#comment-1817 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 03:19:02 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=263#comment-1817 Hi there. I’d like to respond to this posting. I’m currently “friendly” with and East Indian man. I am AA woman. Not only do we have cultural differences but we also have a 12 gap in age. I’m older. I find him very interesting and our communication is actually a B+. I get his sarcasm, he gets mine. But I do find it difficult to get more details out of him about him in general. He has sisters, one arranged marriage, one “love” marriage, one single. But when it comes to him it’s kinda fuzzy. I think part of it is he’s not sure what his future holds and also his culture. He seems to be torn between what he wants and likes and what’s expected of him. So, at this point, I do a lot of listnening and ask a lot of questions. Thanks for this post.

]]> By: Hélène http://blindianlove.com/2009/12/01/communication-in-the-key-of-c/#comment-1747 Mon, 12 Sep 2011 08:56:17 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=263#comment-1747 Hello, I am in a Whidian (?) marriage, we were married 11 months, me divorced with 2 kids and him a former bachelor from South India, so I’m very excited to discover your blog !

I have the same kind of communication problem as you expose ; thank you for your insight, it’s very useful !

Take care.

]]> By: Jazer Infp Strozier http://blindianlove.com/2009/12/01/communication-in-the-key-of-c/#comment-1729 Thu, 08 Sep 2011 00:26:36 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=263#comment-1729 I was a little offended when you said ” he has a happy go lucky attitude about everything” well I do too. Ok you see the four letters in the middle of my name? INFP this stands for Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving. It sounds like your husband is an introvert. Most introverts like to read and we don’t like confrontation. If we get tired enough we can become monsters, give him a chance to show you his fight. Research what it means to be an INFP more and I believe that you will have much much relief. Actually if you accept me to your facebook group I will post little things about the INFP personality type so that you can read them.

]]> By: Ash http://blindianlove.com/2009/12/01/communication-in-the-key-of-c/#comment-985 Wed, 28 Jul 2010 22:49:08 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=263#comment-985 Good Post !!!, I am a East Indian born and brought up in India, I would agree that there is obvious sexism in india but that also depends on which part and which social strata you are coming from, both of my sisters had arranged marriages but they did had a option to say NO and they did that on many ocassions.
and in contrast i was different, i would find hard to say No to any girl i met

]]> By: blindianlove http://blindianlove.com/2009/12/01/communication-in-the-key-of-c/#comment-458 Fri, 25 Dec 2009 02:57:18 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=263#comment-458 Ann,
“Men type issues?” LOL. Funny. Rudeness does not have a gender and if someone is rude repeatedly, I happen to think it should be handled. M will wholeheartedly tell anyone that if he were in India he would have handled things differently. However, because he’s here he feels that he can’t always be himself so to speak. That’s part of what I’m talking about. The fact he’s an immigrant here, he feels he has to follow different rules. I don’t like this because I don’t agree with it. Hope this makes sense.

]]> By: Ann http://blindianlove.com/2009/12/01/communication-in-the-key-of-c/#comment-457 Wed, 23 Dec 2009 20:20:32 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=263#comment-457 @ emily, His Mom is probably talking about the same old boring family stuff and he probably do not wish to talk about all of that again with you and do not take it personally. Men are like that, they would rather talk about fun stuff like a football game. LOL…we women we always want to try and fix things. If your relationship with your man/husband is going along well then that is all you need to be concerned about.

]]> By: Ann http://blindianlove.com/2009/12/01/communication-in-the-key-of-c/#comment-456 Wed, 23 Dec 2009 20:15:25 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=263#comment-456 @Sarah, I believe most “old schooled” men do not communicate well to woman. But, that is not to say they cannot learn.

]]> By: Ann http://blindianlove.com/2009/12/01/communication-in-the-key-of-c/#comment-455 Wed, 23 Dec 2009 20:12:43 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=263#comment-455 My Dear please allow a man to “handle” his own business. Your Dear M. knew the guy was being rude; however, he chose to take the high road and simply ignore him. You and your sister are ladies stay out of “men” type issues.

]]> By: Sarah http://blindianlove.com/2009/12/01/communication-in-the-key-of-c/#comment-451 Thu, 17 Dec 2009 04:04:34 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=263#comment-451 Very interesting. I could relate not because of my Indian husband but because of my father (who is European). It is taxing on my mother in order to get my dad to share with her and emotions had better not exist (he has no idea what to do if she crys).

I think the only thing my husband has difficulty with is trying to ensure that I do not cry–he, like my father does not know how to console. As he mentions, men don’t cry in India, or atleast not real men!

Communication is key and I’m glad to hear its improving. I think my husband and I are A++ communicators, we talk about everything and anything but then again he is a very special man.

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