M and I will be returning to India soon for a visit. I’m nervously excited. Even though I’ve been there so many times and know what to expect, it’s been a longer length of time since our last visit…almost a year. I’ll be spending more time with my in-laws than I ever have before. It’s one thing to talk to someone on the phone all of the time but yet another to be in person. In face to face situations, you see expressions and feel the emotions more.
I’ve noticed the last couple of times we’ve gone back to India that M seems to be a bit more uncomfortable with aspects of the culture. He’s a lot more impatient and is easily irritated by the things that I see as just part of being in India. For example, the traffic drives M nuts now on a level I don’t understand. We’re usually not in a rush to get to anywhere, we KNOW before we even head out that there’s going to be traffic and heat so why be so irritable about it? I think some of the convienences of being here are making him in some ways become the very type of person he likes to avoid in India. M doesn’t see it that way. I hope he finds his place of zen on this trip. It’s hard to believe that in a little over a month ,M and I will have been married for four years. There are days like today when I look at him and I’m still in awe that we chose one another. It’s a journey some days.. we both laugh sometimes because we have such a different type of relationship than we’ve both experienced before. I’m just glad we chose to make the journey together.
I have a Facebook group update. I know it will be slightly confusing and I have a feeling that I’ve probably created a bit more work than I’m ready for in one way but there are now TWO Facebook groups. One is for Black and South Asian couples only. The name of it is Blindian Love Couples. My hope is that those of us in Blindian relationships can find common ground and support in the commonality. This is a group for couples only.
The second Facebook group came about as a result of several emails I got from several readers who wanted to communicate with other Blindian Love Blog readers but may not be in a relationship. The name of the Facebook group is Blindian Love.
I look forward to getting to know some of you readers outside of the blog. My email address is blindianlove@hotmail.com if you have questions or comments about either facebook group. Until the next blog…
Please make sure to take lots of pictures and post them here or on Facebook. Have a great time in India.
Will do Charie!
Congratulations on you and M’s four year marriage.
For along time, I always’ thought that love was a mere emotion. My former coach stunned me with the true definition of it: patience, understanding, kind..etc, he’s been married to his wife for 40 years. When I read your post I thought about the same adjectives that you say about your marriage. I have a feeling that you two will have nothing to worry about. May you both have many more years of marital prosperity.
Thank you very much for the comments or as I say, the blog love. M and I have learned to take it one day at a time. I’m thankful for the place I’m at in life. I hope M and I will have 40 more years together and then some.
CONGRATULATIONS on FOUR YEARS!!!! Have a great time in India…and like the other posters said, take loads of pix!
I sent you a facebook request for Blindianlove.
I love reading your blogs as always…
Stacee
Thanks Stacee! Don’t forget to make a post soon in the Facebook group.
Hi BL,
Many congratulations on four years !
Sorry I haven’t been able to drop by as often as I would like.
By way of a small Anniversary Gift I’ve nominated you for a “Kreativ Blogger” award in recognition of everything you are achieving on here and the love and support you give to people.
You can pick it up from http://honorarynewfie.wordpress.com/2010/02/02/kreativ-blogger
Have a great trip !
Tom,
Thank you so very much for the nomination and the compliments. I had wondered where you’ve been so it’s great to hear from you again. It was a surprise to see the nomination so thank you. I’m honored and humbled. I write this blog and even though I get a few comments, I am always amazed that a) people actually read the blog and b) people enjoy it. I’m thankful for this because it means the blog is serving its purpose. Thanks again and stay in touch!
Hey, just noticed your count… it just turned 15000 !
You’re doing something right girl !
Ok, I just wrote a long comment that I erased by accident, so this will be shorter. Congratulations on your 4 yrs, & it’s wonderful that you’re going back to India soon. It may be that M is just accustomed & happy w/ his current life w/ you, & going back to India is a bit of a “culture shock.” Although he was raised in India, he likely had to make quite a few changes when he got married & moved to the US.
India is progressing rapidly, though, so even though some things might be behind times, there might be quite a few changes in the last year. HOpe you both have a great time there!
Congratz on 4 years! That is hard work for ANY couple, but double time for an interracial one. I am dating an E. Indian man now, and it has been quite a challenge. Ironically, my childhood nanny was E. Indian, so I was always attracted to Indian men, so I thought this relationship would come natural.
Boy was I mistaken! Thanks for being bold enough to blog about such a personal topic!
Best Wishes,
Miss Andi K.
Hi,
Thanks for dropping by the blog. I’m sorry to hear about the challenges you and your SO are having. Do you mind me asking what they are? Maybe me or some of the other bloggers can help ease your mind on some things. I do hope things work out for you both.
My hubby and I are planning on visiting India in March, we will be taking our daughter to visit his family for the first time. Have a great time and take lots of pics to share!!
Have a great, safe, trip. Look forward to hearing about it.
Toni
Hope you are enjoying your visit. Be safe
Will catch you on facebook.
Peace
Congrats on your upcoming anniversary!!! Have an awesome time in India and be sure to post lots of pictures! I went to India when I was two, I don’t have any memories, just what my parents tell me. I definitely want to go back one day.