Comments on: About http://blindianlove.com A Peek inside the marriage of an African American woman and her East Indian spouse Thu, 12 Jan 2012 01:15:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Alisa http://blindianlove.com/about/#comment-2310 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 01:15:34 +0000 #comment-2310 Robin,
I read your post like this :O My first thought was that perhaps it was a greencard scam. However, I when I read your post to hubby he thought slightly differently. He says if the family is well off, they wouldn’t need to need to pay for a greencard for the guy who was already here. He wondered if she was paid to marry the cousin. Do you happen to know where the boyfriend was from in India? The more M thought about this the more he was saying things didn’t make sense to him. He’s saying it doesn’t make sense for someone to date someone, take them home and then force her to marry the cousin. It makes me wonder if the girl knew what was up before she left too if the in laws paid for the ticket. Sounds like her family needs to ask more questions about this situation.

]]> By: robin http://blindianlove.com/about/#comment-2302 Mon, 09 Jan 2012 20:34:57 +0000 #comment-2302 hello. i know of no one to ask this of so i’m starting here and maybe you and your husband can address my concern. a relative of a close friend has dated and was engaged to an indian man for approximately a year. my friend’s relative I’m told for lack of a better word is extremely ghetto so the relationship (or attraction) has always been somewhat surpising. it’s believed to be financially motatived for her. however, she has never met her future in laws but we know the family is well off financially. shortly after christmas, she traveled to India. her future brother-in-law paid for her trip but she traveled alone because for reasons unexplained, her and her future husband could not travel together. once she arrived, she saw very little of her fiance. then, her family received a phone call from her stating she was married, but not to her fiance, but his cousin instead. she didn’t explain why she married the cousin but only stated that she had to be married to him for 2-years. as you can guess, the family is very worried and concerned she’s been coaxed and now worried if she will even return home. they’ve heard nothing from her over the last few days. she is only 28 years old and has two small children. what are your thoughts? is this something that indian men do to young unknowing female american women in hopes of obtaining a green card or u.s. citizenship?

]]> By: Nicolette http://blindianlove.com/about/#comment-2180 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 13:45:01 +0000 #comment-2180 Wow this blog is so refreshing! I’m a black female and my boyfriend is south Indian, we are so crazy about each other. I have 1 child from a previous marriage. This is a 1st blindian relationship for both of us and were having a blast!!!! He’s the most kind, respectful and adoring man I’ve ever met. People stare all the time when we are out. I don’t really care and neither does he. Most of the time people stare when my daughter is with us. I guess they are trying to figure out if she’s his or not(her father is black). But I will be keeping up with your blog! Thanks, I truly needed this!!!

]]> By: A http://blindianlove.com/about/#comment-2102 Sun, 11 Dec 2011 01:47:49 +0000 #comment-2102 Hi there!

My mom is Black and Hispanic and my dad is East Indian and I struggle with my interracial identity sometimes. I found your blog and you’ve given me hope! Thanks for being so strong!
- A

]]> By: brianna http://blindianlove.com/about/#comment-1961 Thu, 17 Nov 2011 20:42:42 +0000 #comment-1961 i think they should be happy that you found love im orry this is happening to you someone who i fell for who is indian must be going through the same thing.i hope everything works out

]]> By: brianna http://blindianlove.com/about/#comment-1960 Thu, 17 Nov 2011 20:34:42 +0000 #comment-1960 i was just reading the comments about the fb thing what is that called if you have made it yet i would like to join it..or like it.Thanks

]]> By: brianna http://blindianlove.com/about/#comment-1959 Thu, 17 Nov 2011 20:29:15 +0000 #comment-1959 thank you i see her alot at their family owned store and we don’t really talk about anything..she knows how i feel about him and i know that she does not like it..its hard

]]> By: Alisa http://blindianlove.com/about/#comment-1955 Thu, 17 Nov 2011 04:53:45 +0000 #comment-1955 Gabbybella28,
It’s great that your MIL has accepted you and the kids. It makes things so much easier. Hopefully your father-in-law will come around soon.

]]> By: Alisa http://blindianlove.com/about/#comment-1952 Thu, 17 Nov 2011 04:43:02 +0000 #comment-1952 Thanks Blujay… melding cultures isn’t always easy but once you guys find your own rhythm, it becomes much easier. It’s almost six years in for me and M and still sometimes find that we have to adjust our “dance” so to speak. However, once we do, life is good. Thanks so much the blog love.

]]> By: Alisa http://blindianlove.com/about/#comment-1951 Thu, 17 Nov 2011 04:40:07 +0000 #comment-1951 Hi Brianna,
My advice is to just be yourself! You can’t force someone to like you. However, sneaking around isn’t good either. At this point, it’s speculation on both your and your boyfriend’s part that his mom won’t like you. Why not find out for sure how she will feel…Perhaps you could get him to introduce you to his mom so you know for sure. You never know… she may meet you and really like you.

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