Comments for A Journey In Black and Indian Love http://blindianlove.com A Peek inside the marriage of an African American woman and her East Indian spouse Mon, 08 Mar 2010 07:21:03 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on About by Glenn http://blindianlove.com/about/#comment-732 Glenn Sun, 07 Mar 2010 02:33:11 +0000 #comment-732 Hi Charie, I'm really fortunate in that my family is very accepting of any race, so I did not have an problems while dating the AA woman. I am a bit of a rebel in my family, in that if I believe in something, I will stand by it even if the whole world things I'm wrong. My wife is also very accepting of other races but it helps that we are both christian (I became a christian while back in India before marriage). My close friend's sister has married an AA man and he is a good man. It is really unfortunate that while many Indians don't like to experience racism, they freely mete it out to blacks. This behavior was quite common among the South Indians on campus (not all South Indians are like this) when i went to school here in the States. I was utterly amazed and saddened by this behavior because these guys were themselves on the dark side. I did not tolerate such tendencies in my presence. To get back to your question, Indians in general (the ones who are superficial anyway) do have a penchant for a lighter complexion. This is not just with reference to an AA but also in India within the caste system. In general, the higher castes tend to be lighter complexioned. This attitude is less prevalent in cities like Bombay, so if you meet an Indian who grew up in such a place, you would have less of a chance of such behavior. I hope this answers your question. Regards.. Hi Charie,
I’m really fortunate in that my family is very accepting of any race, so I did not have an problems while dating the AA woman. I am a bit of a rebel in my family, in that if I believe in something, I will stand by it even if the whole world things I’m wrong. My wife is also very accepting of other races but it helps that we are both christian (I became a christian while back in India before marriage). My close friend’s sister has married an AA man and he is a good man.

It is really unfortunate that while many Indians don’t like to experience racism, they freely mete it out to blacks. This behavior was quite common among the South Indians on campus (not all South Indians are like this) when i went to school here in the States. I was utterly amazed and saddened by this behavior because these guys were themselves on the dark side. I did not tolerate such tendencies in my presence.

To get back to your question, Indians in general (the ones who are superficial anyway) do have a penchant for a lighter complexion. This is not just with reference to an AA but also in India within the caste system. In general, the higher castes tend to be lighter complexioned. This attitude is less prevalent in cities like Bombay, so if you meet an Indian who grew up in such a place, you would have less of a chance of such behavior.

I hope this answers your question.
Regards..

]]> Comment on About by Charie Daviston http://blindianlove.com/about/#comment-730 Charie Daviston Sat, 06 Mar 2010 22:07:16 +0000 #comment-730 @Glenn I was just curious about what it was like for you when you dated a black American? Did you find that friends and family were not as accepting as your marriage to a white American? I just wonder if Indians are more accepting of Whites marrying them as opposed to Blacks? Thanks @Glenn
I was just curious about what it was like for you when you dated a black American? Did you find that friends and family were not as accepting as your marriage to a white American? I just wonder if Indians are more accepting of Whites marrying them as opposed to Blacks?

Thanks

]]> Comment on The Rearing Ugly Head of Hate by Indiangirl http://blindianlove.com/2010/02/19/the-rearing-ugly-head-of-hate/#comment-729 Indiangirl Fri, 05 Mar 2010 23:52:52 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=288#comment-729 She should probably stay away from Trinidad or Guyana, too, LOL. She should probably stay away from Trinidad or Guyana, too, LOL.

]]> Comment on About by Glenn http://blindianlove.com/about/#comment-727 Glenn Tue, 02 Mar 2010 22:15:13 +0000 #comment-727 I chanced upon this site but am really glad I did. I'm of India descent and my wife is a white american, but I've dated a black american in the past. I admire you and want to encourage you. If so called friends had/have an issue with your marriage, they were never your friends after all. We live in PA and if you and your spouse lived near by, would have liked to be open to the potential for friendship. We love to travel when we can and experience other cultures and perspectives. I chanced upon this site but am really glad I did. I’m of India descent and my wife is a white american, but I’ve dated a black american in the past. I admire you and want to encourage you. If so called friends had/have an issue with your marriage, they were never your friends after all. We live in PA and if you and your spouse lived near by, would have liked to be open to the potential for friendship. We love to travel when we can and experience other cultures and perspectives.

]]> Comment on Where does time go? by honorarynewfie http://blindianlove.com/2010/02/25/where-does-time-go/#comment-726 honorarynewfie Mon, 01 Mar 2010 22:10:19 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=225#comment-726 Loved number 3 ! All I need to do now is teach myself to believe it. Loved number 3 !
All I need to do now is teach myself to believe it.

]]> Comment on The Rearing Ugly Head of Hate by Lovealwayswins http://blindianlove.com/2010/02/19/the-rearing-ugly-head-of-hate/#comment-723 Lovealwayswins Sun, 28 Feb 2010 18:34:16 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=288#comment-723 This lady better not visit Jamaica or make friends with West Indian Jamaicans because there are plenty of us with this mixture either directly or in our families. Love is love, there is a reason it has no color it transcends "race". This lady better not visit Jamaica or make friends with West Indian Jamaicans because there are plenty of us with this mixture either directly or in our families. Love is love, there is a reason it has no color it transcends “race”.

]]> Comment on Where does time go? by girlsguidetosurvival http://blindianlove.com/2010/02/25/where-does-time-go/#comment-722 girlsguidetosurvival Sun, 28 Feb 2010 06:52:19 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=225#comment-722 I read it some where, "Friends are God's way of appologizing for relatives." How was the India trip? What was new? More cars on the roads or more cows? I read it some where, “Friends are God’s way of appologizing for relatives.”

How was the India trip? What was new? More cars on the roads or more cows?

]]> Comment on Where does time go? by diverse http://blindianlove.com/2010/02/25/where-does-time-go/#comment-720 diverse Sat, 27 Feb 2010 02:56:15 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=225#comment-720 I can't believe it's 2010. It's funny how time flies. It seems that I was 18 yesterday and I'm almost 39. I attended my nephew's basketball games and I came across a couple of my classmates at my former high school. Although they are parents of several kids, it seems that we're all going to pep rallies instead of these games. My sister is a year younger than me. She's about to attend her 20 year class reunion. You just look at the people and with the exception of a little weight gain, they all look the same as they did in high school. It just all so weird to me. But I'm happy that Lord let me see this year. I also feel like you. In some ways Feel that I'm taking life for granted. I Just feel that my life has become more about work than play. I haven't been out of my state for a mighty long time to the point where I'm beginning to feel like a hic. I don't have any kids of my own, but if I did, I would want them to know about life and how to enjoy it to the fullest. I just wouldn't want to leave this world where all my life consisted of is work, work, work. Even in this state of terrible economic affairs, I'm a realist, but I don't want it get me down to the point where I shouldn't no life. No matter how bad things may look on the outside, I try my best to look at the good that may be underneath it.For the time being, I will just enjoy nature, my life and some of my family .Hopefully things will get better. I can’t believe it’s 2010.

It’s funny how time flies. It seems that I was 18 yesterday and I’m almost 39. I attended my nephew’s basketball games and I came across a couple of my classmates at my former high school. Although they are parents of several kids, it seems that we’re all going to pep rallies instead of these games. My sister is a year younger than me. She’s about to attend her 20 year class reunion. You just look at the people and with the exception of a little weight gain, they all look the same as they did in high school. It just all so weird to me. But I’m happy that Lord let me see this year.

I also feel like you. In some ways Feel that I’m taking life for granted. I Just feel that my life has become more about work than play. I haven’t been out of my state for a mighty long time to the point where I’m beginning to feel like a hic. I don’t have any kids of my own, but if I did, I would want them to know about life and how to enjoy it to the fullest. I just wouldn’t want to leave this world where all my life consisted of is work, work, work. Even in this state of terrible economic affairs, I’m a realist, but I don’t want it get me down to the point where I shouldn’t no life. No matter how bad things may look on the outside, I try my best to look at the good that may be underneath it.For the time being, I will just enjoy nature, my life and some of my family .Hopefully things will get better.

]]> Comment on Happy Diwali by Milky Chai http://blindianlove.com/2009/10/18/happy-diwali/#comment-716 Milky Chai Thu, 25 Feb 2010 13:51:39 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=246#comment-716 Wasn't that just awesome! I love him! Wasn’t that just awesome! I love him!

]]> Comment on Isn’t It All Good Hair by Milky Chai http://blindianlove.com/2009/11/11/isnt-it-all-good-hair/#comment-715 Milky Chai Thu, 25 Feb 2010 13:50:36 +0000 http://blindianlove.com/?p=250#comment-715 blindianlove, you are absolutely ADORABLE!!! And I do love the do! I have wavy frizzy hair and I use a flat iron every day, such a pain. I run from the rain, too! blindianlove, you are absolutely ADORABLE!!! And I do love the do! I have wavy frizzy hair and I use a flat iron every day, such a pain. I run from the rain, too!

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