Comments for A Journey In Black and Indian Love

Comment on About by Alisa

Alisa — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 01:15:34 +0000

Robin,
I read your post like this :O My first thought was that perhaps it was a greencard scam. However, I when I read your post to hubby he thought slightly differently. He says if the family is well off, they wouldn’t need to need to pay for a greencard for the guy who was already here. He wondered if she was paid to marry the cousin. Do you happen to know where the boyfriend was from in India? The more M thought about this the more he was saying things didn’t make sense to him. He’s saying it doesn’t make sense for someone to date someone, take them home and then force her to marry the cousin. It makes me wonder if the girl knew what was up before she left too if the in laws paid for the ticket. Sounds like her family needs to ask more questions about this situation.

Comment on About by robin

robin — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 20:34:57 +0000

hello. i know of no one to ask this of so i’m starting here and maybe you and your husband can address my concern. a relative of a close friend has dated and was engaged to an indian man for approximately a year. my friend’s relative I’m told for lack of a better word is extremely ghetto so the relationship (or attraction) has always been somewhat surpising. it’s believed to be financially motatived for her. however, she has never met her future in laws but we know the family is well off financially. shortly after christmas, she traveled to India. her future brother-in-law paid for her trip but she traveled alone because for reasons unexplained, her and her future husband could not travel together. once she arrived, she saw very little of her fiance. then, her family received a phone call from her stating she was married, but not to her fiance, but his cousin instead. she didn’t explain why she married the cousin but only stated that she had to be married to him for 2-years. as you can guess, the family is very worried and concerned she’s been coaxed and now worried if she will even return home. they’ve heard nothing from her over the last few days. she is only 28 years old and has two small children. what are your thoughts? is this something that indian men do to young unknowing female american women in hopes of obtaining a green card or u.s. citizenship?

Comment on Black + Indian=Blindian by Cindy Grewal

Cindy Grewal — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 16:55:29 +0000

yes i an married to a man frompunjab we were maeerid for 7 years but he got deported i know he still loves me we call almost every day and he is in a arrange marraige i am going to keep holding on to him becouse i kmow he still loves so you keep holding on if he really love you he will leave those so called friends alone cgrewal

Comment on Black + Indian=Blindian by deep

deep — Sun, 25 Dec 2011 08:06:17 +0000

@ lily
Don’t listen to her feminist bulshit. If u think, compatibility and then love between u & ur partner are great then u have a reason to go after him . Don’t let ego (either yours or ego communicated by others) come in ur relationship. How is going after the person u love to make him realize this is great(Relationship) makes me look bad .I always appreciated their(feminist) concern but not the way they want to achieve.so don’t be one , just go for it. Good luck

Comment on Black + Indian=Blindian by Asia

Asia — Sun, 25 Dec 2011 04:55:10 +0000

Hey Amber, Things aren’t working out. I thought they were but once again i was wrong. My SO has broken up with me. Without any heads up goodbye, nothing. He won’t answer my calls or messages. He has broken up with me & asked me to take him back 4 times in the last 2 weeks & frankly i am exhausted. I don’t know what to do. I love him yet i am starting to become angry with him. I don’t think i can ever trust to take him back if it ever came down to it. I really thought we would work. I believed we would work & thought he did too. How do i handle this? I have prayed about this & feel like i am stuck at a standstill. I don’t have anyone else to talk to about this because no one understands how it feels to be in this kind of predicament, except the ppl on this website, Thanks for your suppport. Please respond.

Comment on Black + Indian=Blindian by Amber

Amber — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 20:11:28 +0000

Thank you, Asia! I really hope that everything works out for the both of you, and eventually his family as well. I know how devastating and frustrating it can be sometimes. I have learned that faith can take you a mighty long way…faith in God and faith in each other! At some point he will have to realize that pleasing everyone else may not always be the right decision. You CANT always please everyone. If he loves you and wants to spend his life with you, YOUR happiness and HIS happiness should come first. My fiance gave up countless times, and even after he chose me over his family and moved in, he chose them and ended up moving out 4 days later with no contact at all! You have support from me and others on this website! Without this website, I wouldn’t have made it through some days. It is wonderful to know that support is here! Just remember that even when times get darker than you can imagine, there is always light to be shown to guide you through. It is up to IR couples to break the mold and the shed light on the ignorance of society. When one of us makes it, we all make it because one couple can make so much difference in opening the hearts and minds of those who are so against IR relationships. Find your strength and don’t let it go! Hope this helps! Again, good luck! =) Keep us posted!

Comment on Black + Indian=Blindian by Asia Joy

Asia Joy — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 16:26:51 +0000

Hello Ladies, Thank you so much for your replies. I really appreciate it. Me and my SO has worked somewhat through our troubles, and he decided to try for the sake of our love. So i am trying my best to help keep his faith high not knowing when he will give up again. The day his parents decide to meet me i’ll be sure to keep everything you said in mind. Congrats on your engagement Amber! You really are a testimony & make things so much easier for other IR. Thank You!

Comment on A Much Needed Mini Vacation by Nicolette

Nicolette — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 01:53:53 +0000

Well lets fast forward 2 years……..I live in a suburb of atlanta. I see many indian men around where my boyfriend lives but not many black and indian couples. No one says anything crazy but people do stare

Comment on Raising Hope, Hell and Two Beautiful Babies by Nicolette

Nicolette — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 13:54:49 +0000

I read this post a few weeks ago. Im glad I did because he prompted me to ask how he felt about discipline. We are thinking of having children so I wanted to make sure we are on the same page. Apparently Indian whip their kids as well. So in that aspect we have similar backgrounds. So we agreed we would be a united front! Thanks for this also!!!

Comment on About by Nicolette

Nicolette — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 13:45:01 +0000

Wow this blog is so refreshing! I’m a black female and my boyfriend is south Indian, we are so crazy about each other. I have 1 child from a previous marriage. This is a 1st blindian relationship for both of us and were having a blast!!!! He’s the most kind, respectful and adoring man I’ve ever met. People stare all the time when we are out. I don’t really care and neither does he. Most of the time people stare when my daughter is with us. I guess they are trying to figure out if she’s his or not(her father is black). But I will be keeping up with your blog! Thanks, I truly needed this!!!