A Journey In Black and Indian Love

A Peek inside the marriage of an African American woman and her East Indian spouse

Drumroll Please! April 15, 2012

It’s been a while since I’ve made a blog post.  I could give you an array of reasons why I’ve gotten so behind on so many things including this blog but you all go through the same things yourselves day in and day out… there’s kids, work, family issues, and just general lack of prioritization.


I do have some news to share with you lovelies that aren’t part of the Facebook group… M and I are expecting our first bundle of joy together in August. We found out the day after Christmas while we were Gosh how far we’ve come and oh my LORD how old do I feel right now. Heehee. The fact has not escaped us that by the time the twins start high school we’ll be potty training too or the fact that by the time Baby A. starts kindergarten, the twins will be graduating from high school. WOWZA What were we thinking?!  I jest but only half-heartedly. I can’t say there aren’t anxieties about having a newborn after all these years (me) or being a first time parent (M).  However, we are excited about the blessing our union is about to produce.  

 M and I also celebrated our sixth anniversary in March.  Time has flown by so very fast and it seems that when we look back on our love struck younger selves we’re watching someone else’s life. Ahhh young love.

Nothing too much more exciting that I’d like to share right now has happened over the course of the last few months. Life has definitely not been boring that’s for sure!  I think I’ll wrap this up for right now. I hope life has been treating you all very well. I’d love to hear from you!

If you haven’t dropped by the Facebook group (Blindian Love), please consider joining the group. There have been some interesting discussions lately.  For those of you in long-term serious Blindian (Black + Indian) relationships, after being part of Blindian Love for a while, you’re eligible to also join Blindian Love Couples. Until the next blog


16 Responses to “Drumroll Please!”

  1. Arielle Says:

    Ahhh man..congratulations to the both of you your pregnancy. When I read you last story, I was curious because you’ve mentioned about having 2.5 kids .I didn’t ask about it as I didn’t want to appear like I was nosy. I also will congratulate you both on your wedding anniversary.May you both be blessed with many more years of marital bliss.

    • Alisa Says:

      Thanks for the congrats everyone. Arielle, when I said 2.5 kids I was referring to the average number of kids Americans have…it’s sort of that statistical dream family.

  2. ann Says:

    I just thought I would drop in to see if you had blog lately and you did.

    Congratulations. How excited M is? Awww, he or she is going to be so adorable.

    I bet the twins cannot wait for there new sister or brother. I am sure all of the

    grandparents are very excited. LOL, store some sleep for later.


  3. Lisa Says:

    Wow…. you are blessed. I wish my Blindian relationship had the same fait. I lost out to traditions and arranged marriage. I wish you love and a healthy baby.

  4. Christina Says:

    I think this is amazing! I want to marry an Indian man so bad,I am going to India for the first time in october of 2013 …im so happy for the both of you! Can’t wait to see more post!!

  5. Della Says:


  6. Sunnei Dais Says:

    Congratulations to you! You are an inspiration to me as I try to navigate dating my Indian friend. I have not read your entire blog, but I am truly thankful that your blog “popped’ up when I did my search. Right now, only his brother knows about us because of the ‘strict’ rules regarding marriage for him. We are finding it less difficult everyday as people (niostly Indian) stare at us. He simply draws nearer and puts his arm around me, I know he wants to protect me. Being American, a divorcee with children, and a bit older (although I thought he was older and he thought I was younger) have served as obstacles for us; hoiwever, we endure. I will read your blog for more inspiration and I thank you for sharing. If we were in America, I’d like to believe that this would be easier, but who knows. Thanks so much and congratulations!

    • Belladonna Says:

      Wow. This is so encouraging. I just posted a comment. A 32 year old Induan guy at work has been asking me out. I am 39, divorced with 3 kids. What could he possibly want. We go out this Saturday. I am a little nervous and I can’t help reminding myself that Indians don’t marry outside their race. I do want to re marry one day. Anyway this blog came up when I did my google search. I guess I will find out soon enough.

      • ann Says:

        @ Belladonna

        Remember the owner of this site is a bw married to a wonderful am. And, that too can be you. You do not have to tell any guy everything about yourself on the first date. Just go out and have yourself a little fun.

  7. Belladonna Says:

    Congrats to you. I am so glad I found this site. This young Indian guy at work has been asking me out. Been reluctant to accept because for one he is 32 and I am a 39 year black woman, divorced single mother of 3. What could he possibly want from me other than the obvious. My friends at work said to go for it. So I did. We go out this weekend. So I guess I have to see. He is a cutie. Hehe. Dark skinned tall Indian.

    • ann Says:


      You are obviously a terriffic woman, don’t ever doubt that.,,smart and beautiful.
      And, he is one smart guy to notice you. You are worthy!
      Go out and have a wonderful time.
      Learn some new and positive things from each other.
      Lady, let us know how everything is coming along.

  8. Asia J Says:

    Although this comment is late i did read it the day it went up but was on vacation. I AM SOOO HAPPY FOR YOU! When i read of the amazign news i called my Indian fiance and told him. He was shocked but so very happy. The way we rejoiced over your new baby was as if we knew you personally. Thank you for having a blog that is so much of an inspiration. You may not know but back in december when i discovered this blog and made a posting for help with my IR their was a lot of amazing feedback that was very helpful. CONGRATS and THANK YOU! God bless you and your family!

  9. Hi! I’m so happy I found this blog! I’m black and my boyfriend is Guyanese of Indian descent. I definitely have wondered about MANY of the things you have mentioned in your blog. I thank God I stumbled here! :). Above all, CONGRATULATIONS on your upcoming budle of joy! I know M is super excited! I bet the twins are as well! May God continue to bless and watch over your family! I hope you post a pic of the baby here, I’m not on FB.

  10. Hi! CONGRATULATIONS! I know M and the twins are super excited! May I add that I thank God I found this site! 🙂 I’m a 28 year old black woman that’s been dating a 37 year old Guyanese Indian man for a year. I’ve been wondering about many of the issues you mentioned here. It was nice to hear someone’s insight who is/has experienced some things first hand. I pray that God continues to bless and protect your family, that you have a safe delivery and a healthy baby! Please post a pic here! I might be the only person on Earth that doesn’t belong to FB or Twitter. 🙂

  11. nicholai Says:

    congrats . may you have health baby and family

  12. msnikki Says:

    Congratulations on your new baby girl. May God bless you with a healthy baby, a happy family and a prosperous everlasting love.

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